(no subject)

[pebblerocker]

I can't tell which occasions are an encounter with someone who uses "bro" or "mate" as gender-neutral terms and which are people misreading me until after the double-take, if there is one. I think the man at the tyre shop is one who calls women "mate"; I mean, I've just had a haircut and was wearing my baggy checked shirt, but I was carrying a handbag.

When I was 20 it was easy to see how people could mistake me for a short, downy-chinned 14-year-old boy. I wonder what will happen as my skin shows more and more signs of belonging to an over-30 in outdoor occupations. Will having wrinkles make me obviously not a boy? Or will I turn into some sort of ageless, genderless leprechaun creature?

--

I signed up for snapshot_bingo! I always feel arty near the beginning of the year, maybe from the general resolutionary atmosphere of New Year, maybe because I'm halfway between NaArMaMos. I'm not sure what the general artistic standard of the community will be like, and if it'll be encouraging or intimidating, but it'll be fun to try even if I don't show the results to anyone. Here's my bingo card:

N	Grand	Bird	Text	I
Fence	Apricot	Hallway	Heard	Wore
Lemon	Imperfect	Free Space	Navy	Children
Smile	Button	V	Favorite	Table
Joy	Fuchsia	Plate	Outside	Aqua

Comments

[megaptera]

It's my weight gain that makes me look more feminine. In my driver's license and passport pictures I look girly in the fat pictures and boyish in the skinny pictures. In all of those my hair was quite short. At the moment I have a sort of Velma Dinkley bob and I don't know what will happen if I keep that and lose weight.

But I do think that the places where men and women put on wrinkles and fat as they age are different, so unless someone is very very skinny you can generally tell. Although the manager in a store where I took a resume last month had me rather in awe -- she was heavy but small-breasted, and wore no makeup or jewelry and had very short cropped hair. I initially thought she was a man, and when I heard her voice I had a slight doubt, and when I heard her NAME I was still on the fence, until another employee specifically said 'she' when referring to her. :)