[Image description: Screen shot of a social media post: Why wen u say “i had a dream about u” ppl always assume sexual shit [frown emoji]. no bitch You fought well but died by my sword [3 laughing with tears emojis]. Description ends]
Serious question from an aroace person: Do allos really routinely have sex-themed dreams as much as this implies? Or is this just a form of teasing?
Quoted tags:
#i’m aroace and have sex dreams every now and then #i’m also sex averse irl but for some reason not in my dreams???
I’m aroace, and sex positive (aegosexual). I’m also well into my middle age and can count the number of sex dreams I’ve had on the fingers of one hand, and still have fingers left over (and I tend to remember at least one dream from most nights).
I think the last time I had a sex dream was something like 12 years ago, sexual attraction had nothing to do with the reasoning, and the “other party” found an excuse not to go through with it before I woke up (every character in your dreams is simply a different facet of your dream p.o.v. character).
This was also several years before I knew the Ace & Aro Spectra were even options. Chalk this up to evidence that I’ve always been queer, without “Social media influence.”
You know what’s cool? I used to identify heavily as a lesbian when I was growing up. I’m technically a bi trans/nonbinary guy now, but I also hold space for a lesbian identity for myself. It was super formative and I don’t mind being a he/they lesbian bc it’s cool as fuck.
And women are so pretty so there
When it comes to chronological age, my mother often said that we are every age we’ve ever been – like matryoshka (nesting) dolls. And that, depending on the moment, we could be acting from whatever age we have available.*
I don’t see any reason why that wouldn’t also be true of our accumulated self-identities and orientations.
*Her conclusion was that most of us cruise through the world as ten-year olds, except when we’re scared and under stress. Then, we revert to two, and want our mommies.
reblog this and put in the tags something you watched that terrified you as a child. i was so scared of the hot sauce in spongebob that i refused to be in the room when it was on
In the musical Scrooge when Marley (Alec Guiness) undoes the sling around his jaw so it can fall/stretch to the floor and he can howl horribly to get Scrooge’s attention properly
June 25th, 2025: Today unless something goes REALLY poorly, I'm back from the Netherlands! I presume it was pretty great, but only Future Me knows for sure!!
June 23rd, 2025: Today I'm in Utrecht; who knows what I'm up to? I don't, because thanks to the magic of SCHEDULED COMICS, you're reading the words of me, Past Ryan, here in the present! (Though technically every word you've ever read was written by someone in the past, and these ones are just slightly moreso than is usual around here.)
reminder this pride month that disabled people in the US on SSI and some forms of SSDI* do not have the same marriage equality as people not on SSI and SSDI. its called the marriage penalty.
by getting married, a disabled person can lose their income, benefits, and health insurance.
if a disabled person marries an able bodied person, and combined their assets are $3000 or over they will lose all benefits, including medicaid (health insurance).
if a disabled person marries a disabled person, their assistance is lowered 25%.
we don’t have marriage equality until all disabled marriages are equal.
*SSDI title II (disabled adult child) does fall under the marriage penalty, regular SSDI does not.
All you have to do is fill out your name, address, phone and email fields (required for all letters/emails to the U.S. Congress), and hit ‘Send’. The email is pre-written (I personalized it a bit, but you don’t have to), and it is automatically sent to your senators.
Editorial point I couldn’t figure out how to put in the email.
The Trump lackeys say they want to cut spending to public media because of its “liberal bias.”
But if I had a nickel for every time a story on “Morning Edition” or “All Things Considered” ended with some version of:
“NPR reached out to [Trump Administration Agency/Person] for comment, and got no response.”
I’d have enough money to pay a good chunk of a week’s grocery bill.
Also, the federal money that goes to public broadcasting is simply to keep local stations up and running. It’s the money pledged during those membership drives that pays for the programming. If there really is a “liberal bias” in what’s on the air, then it’s because that what the local citizens want.
Conservatives would get the more centrist media they (claim they) want if they just engaged with it.
But engaging in mutual support is counter to their political ethos, so…
Capitalism needs idiots in charge. Republicans are all too eager to assist.
Idiot white men rejoice.
I wonder whether the causality doesn’t go the other way.
A “D.U.I.” Hire? Driving under the Influence? Or something else?
I know it’s a play on “D.E.I.,” but I’m not sure how…
No, no, there’s nothing more than that to it: “DUI hire” is a pun on “DEI hire” poking at the subject’s drug/alcohol use.
I knew it was a pun on D.E.I.; I thought, perhaps, the acronym stood for something like: “Decidedly Unqualified Ignoramus.”
(An Ignoramus being someone who is willfully ignorant: Someone who has access to the facts, but chooses not to pay attention to them. Which seems to be the guiding principle for the 47th president in choosing people for his administration)
because i do fundamentally believe everyone should have the right to die when they want.
BUT if they legalise assisted suicide in the UK right now i don’t trust our ableist fucking government to not just start coercing disabled people into suicide to save money. they already won’t give them enough money to live.
you can’t make a free, genuine choice about the time and manner of your death until you have the right to live, as independently as possible and with all your needs met.
this is also true of people who commit regular old unassisted suicide because they can’t transition, because of harassment or discrimination, because they can’t keep a job or don’t make enough money to live. it’s government murder by proxy.
I know the right to a dignified death only as a Belgian concept. You can get access to it after a psych eval to assess you understand what you’re asking for, followed by a panel of doctors assessing if there is a medical procedure anywhere on earth that could relieve the suffering you find unbearable to live with. The panel has to be in absolute agreement there is not.
Financial reasons are not adequate. That problem was foreseen quite quickly and explicitly ruled out as an option while the law was being written. Having someone turn to the panel and them coming back with “uh, actually, you just need XYZ support” is considered damning for the doctors treating you who didn’t look that deep, or the insurance company that denied you that support, or the government not providing you with enough means to live with adequate food in a clean, maintained house and transport to medical care. Especially if the system keeps failing the same people at the same point.
It’s a culture you need to cultivate. It tends to be unpopular with certain kinds of politicians, because “current government policy makes people wish for the sweet release of death” might make them look bad, or worse, motivate change. There is also the issue with the current trend in politics of being unwilling to admit you share even a smidge of opinion with your opponents, even about statements like “maybe people shouldn’t die begging their spouse of 50 years to hold a pillow over their face until the pain stops”.
Belgium is nowhere near being perfect in providing people with all they need to thrive, or even not suffer outright. But it is proof you can write a law for assisted death under those circumstances, and turn it into a stick behind the door for people at the top, rather than a broom to sweep undesirables away with.
I am a bodily autonomy absolutist.
And that means I include assisted dying.
However:
Do not talk to me about “A Dignified Death” until after I am guaranteed the right to A Dignified Life!
All you have to do is fill out your name, address, phone and email fields (required for all letters/emails to the U.S. Congress), and hit ‘Send’. The email is pre-written (I personalized it a bit, but you don’t have to), and it is automatically sent to your senators.
June 20th, 2025: Today and this weekend I'm in in Utrecht for Heroes Dutch Comic Con - the biggest con in the Netherlands! I have never been to the Netherlands so please do send me all your SECRET NETHERLANDS RECOMMENDATIONS, and I hope to see you there!
For those not in the know, the decorated quilts would simply go unnoticed, but for those looking for signs, “the quilts conveyed messages to people who were about to escape, who were planning to escape, and also for people that were on the run,” she said. She becomes emotional when thinking about the lengths people went to to help one another reach freedom.
Full transcript up at the site. But for some reason, my mouse/cursor isn’t working right to select and copy text for pasting here, or for clicking the play button. I don’t know if that’s a Website problem, or my computer problem.
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